Sometimes I feel like texting, instant messaging and email are absolutely no good for dating.  I’ll admit I’ve fallen prey to the “I texted him three hours ago why hasn’t he responded monster.”  Not to mention my short bout with cyberstalking.

So I was happy when author Kimberly D. Neumann asked for my opinion on the subject for her great article on Match.com. 

Here’s a blurb from the section on social networking:

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Social networking (Facebook and Twitter)

 

No doubt “friend me” has become a part of our vernacular. But along with frequent status updates and photo tags comes a whole new wrinkle for the dating world. For example, at what point do you friend a date? Date one, date two, date three (or never)? And do you really want to know what’s going on in his or her FB world — especially if it doesn’t work out? This is a tricky one.

“Social-networking sites can breed unnecessary insecurity in relationships if you fall into the trap of trying to figure out what’s in a person’s heart by who said what on their wall,” says Keysha Whitaker, cofounder of SingleWomenRule.com. Not to mention that even if you are in a relationship, it can lead to major miscommunication!

“Of course you want to have your significant other on your ‘friends’ list, however, the site can still be an emotional minefield,” says Kirstin, 37, of New York. “When my boyfriend added a bunch of pictures of our trip to Paris together to his wall — but didn’t include any of the two of us together — I was livid! It was like he was trying to ‘play single’ online.” And another friend of Kirstin’s got in trouble with his girlfriend when a female friend posted on his wall that he could stay with her when he came to her hometown for a weekend.

Read the full article here.

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It’s a feature for Match.com by Dawn Yanek, that explores 10 reasons why being single can be beneficial.

Reason #2: You’re more likely to achieve great things
It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you have the time, the quiet and the lack of familial responsibilities. In fact, your premarital motivation to excel in life may be biologically programmed. According to a study conducted at the London School of Economics and Political Scientists, male scientists who stay single longer peak in their careers later in life and tend to be more productive than their married counterparts. Researchers theorize that men, in general, may show off their talents to win the interest of women and then, once they’ve won a wife, get comfortable and do less. In fact, studies have shown that testosterone levels, which boost action, decrease after a man gets married and has children. So single folk should know they are primed to achieve — whether that means turbo-charging their careers or honing their rock-climbing skills — and get out there and work it!

 Read the full article here.