Sex Comes First: new book brings “fresh perspective” on relationship woes
Sex comes first.
No, that’s not another how-to-get-him-and-keep-him strategy women are inundated with, it’s the title of popular New York-based writer Kimberly D. Neumann and award winning psychologist Joel Block, Ph.D’s new book: Sex Comes First Fifteen Ways to Save Your Relationship . . . Without Leaving Your Bedroom.
Sex Comes First offers an interesting perspective on using sex and intimacy as a tool to address potentially damaging issues in your relationships.
“The basic idea is that we took 15 issues that are experienced by any couples of committed relationship, like trust and jealousy, and discuss how you can work on those issues with a corresponding sexual experience,” said Kimberly.
“Obviously any relationship issues you have will trickle into your sex life, because of the mind/body experience, and if you put the right sexual experience it can help ameliorate the progress of resolving whatever issue that you are facing,” said Kimberly.
“It’s a fresh concept and not something that I’ve seen,” said Kimberly. “For jealousy, the sexual experience has to do with sharing your sexual fantasy. It’s not like, ‘use the missionary position for this.’ ”
Block, a sex therapist for 30 years, used experiential data from his studies and background, said Kimberly. “I wanted him to highly inform me when it came to pairing the right exercise with the issues. Alot of it has an Eastern philosophy feel to it. There’s a whole section on balancing the ying and yang in relationship.”
Much to my disappointment, Kimberly didn’t do any field research for the book.
Kimberly D. Neumann
“I was very single while writing this one, however I’ve had more than one volunteer,” said the California native. A journalism grad of the University of Maryland, Kimberly’s writing on relationships has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Marie Claire, Maxim, Health, and regularly for MSN, AOL and Match.com.
Sex Comes First, which hits stores on May 18, 2009, is Kim’s second book with Block. The first, The Real Reason’s Men Commit: Why He Will - or Won’t - Love, Honor and Marry You (Adams Media, 2008), was ironically written while Kimberly was ending a very serious long-term relationship.
“I left him. It was rough trying to write a book about men and commitment,” said Kimberly. “I undoubtedly wrote a better book, but it [process] sucked - I was crying for an hour and writing for an hour. It was really kind of ironic timing.”
“I think one of the biggest things I got out of what I was going through, I was never more grateful to recognize that I knew what I was worth,” said Kimberly. “The fact that I had the strength to walk away from someone I loved very deeply, I was very proud of myself.”
“I think it’s a big mistake to put your entire sense of self-worth into the person you’re dating, even after years of marriage,” said Kimberly. “Happiness really stems from within.”
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