Should you be auditioning to be some guy’s wife?

I’ve seen this quite a few times, and it drives me nuts.

Girl dates boy. Girl moves in with boy. Girl works a demanding full-time job, yet takes over all the cooking and cleaning for boy. It’s not the living together I object to but the idea that some women automatically assume the scut work in a relationship. (And the fact that it very often leads to resentment and
gets her nowhere.)

Case in point: A very attractive friend of mine just won a promotion at work, she’s studying for her Master’s, and she’s been living with her boyfriend for a couple of years.

Him? He’s no great shakes. By all accounts, his mother is way too involved in his life. He works in a dead-end job. Oh, and he says he isn’t ready to get married.

My young friend knows what she wants (a promising and fulfilling career and a husband she can have children with), and this guy just doesn’t. So, I wonder (and her mother wonders and her grandmother wonders and her friends wonder) why she’s making this man’s dinner and cleaning his toilets?

We can see it — but she can’t — that there’s an excellent possibility that a more intelligent fellow is out there with a promising career of his own, who’s actually happy to empty a dishwasher, looking forward to having children, and hoping to meet someone just like her.

But she’s wasting time with Mama’s Boy. Granted, she does love him, but that certainly doesn’t guarantee that he’ll ever be ready to marry her.

My dearest hope is that she’ll reclaim her life and move into another place with a new roommate. She doesn’t have to break up with Mama’s Boy, but she would be so much better off exploring her options.

And letting him clean his own toilets.

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BadAss Chicks of Comedy: Get 1/2 off!!

*** $ $ $  Introducing a new discount for members of SingleWomenRule.com $ $ $ ***
The Chewy Project produces comedy and music shows in New York City featuring new and veteran talent.  Receive 50% off the admission price of a The Chewy Project show with your membership in SingleWomenRule.com.  Join now, it’s free and fun. 
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BadAss Chicks of Comedy
Headliner: Jessica Kirson (Comedy Central’s Premium Blend, Jay Leno Show, Whiteboyz in the Hood, Comics Unleashed etc)

Featuring: Nicky Sunshine (Sistahs of comedy)
                 Luna
                 Scout Durwood (MTV’s Shot at Love with Tila Tequila, Howard Stern Show)
                 Chewy (MNN’s Star or Bizzare, MNN’s Make Me Laugh or Else, and NBC’s Nonstop)

Host:         Kara Klenk (Spike TV’s MoCap)

Cost:  $10 in advance, plus two drink minimum, or $15 at the door, plus two drink minimum

SWR Members and friends get 50% off the admission price.  Say SingleWomenRule.com at the door!!

Date:         Thursday, March 18, 2010 at 8:30 PM
Location:   Eastville Comedy Club, 85 East 4th Street, New York, NY

For more info on The Chewy Project visit:
www.youtube.com/user/chewyisfunny
www.myspace.com/franklychewy
Facebook:  Chewy Chiu

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One giant step for womankind

Photo: Kevin Winter/ Getty Images

Photo: Kevin Winter/ Getty Images

Last night, Kathryn Bigelow became the first woman to take home an Academy Award for Best Director. (Really, it took this long for a woman to win Best Director? Anybody ever hear of Ida Lupino?)

Phyllida Lloyd, who directed the box-office hit Mamma Mia!, told Forbes of last year’s nominees,  “I find it staggering and rather depressing when you look at the Oscar list.” She said it wasn’t just about the “‘lack of female directors…the stories are all so male-driven, even with the independent films. It’s quite a bleak canvas.”

I’m with you, Lady.

With Bigelow we get a woman who directed a male-driven film, but I’m delighted she snagged the big kahuna. Maybe next year another woman will take it for making a film stocked with strong, funny, ambitious female characters.

In the meantime, check out Heather Havrilesky’s take on “the best Oscar night ever.”

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Good muffins! A healthy recipe from The Mayo-Clinic experts

Morning Glory Muffins
By the weight-loss experts at Mayo Clinic and Donald Hensrud, M.D., M.P.H.
Authors of The Mayo Clinic Diet: Eat well. Enjoy life. Lose weight.


15 MINUTES PREPARATION TIME + 35 MINUTES COOKING TIME + MAKES 18 SMALL MUFFINS1 c. all-purpose (plain) flour
1 c. whole-wheat flour
¾ c. sugar
2 tsp. baking soda
2 tsp. ground cinnamon
¼ tsp. salt
¾ c. egg substitute
½ c. vegetable oil
½ c. unsweetened applesauce
2 tsp. vanilla extract
2 c. chopped apples, unpeeled
½ c. raisins
¾ c. grated carrots
2 tbsp. chopped pecans
1. Preheat the oven to 350 F.

 

 

2. Line a muffin pan with paper or foil liners.

3. In a bowl, combine the flours, sugar, baking soda, cinnamon and salt. Whisk to blend evenly.

4. In a separate bowl, add egg substitute, oil, applesauce and vanilla. Stir in apples, raisins and carrots. Add to the flour mixture and blend just until moistened but still slightly lumpy.

5. Spoon the batter into muffin cups, filling each cup about 2/3 full. Sprinkle with chopped pecans and bake until springy to the touch, about 35 minutes.

6. Let cool for 5 minutes, then transfer the muffins to a wire rack and let cool completely. Serve.


PYRAMID SERVINGS:
Fruits 1
Carbohydrates 1
Fats 1


PER SERVING (1 MUFFIN)
Calories 170
Protein 3 g
Carbohydrate 25 g
Total Fat 7 g
Monounsaturated Fat 2 g
Saturated Fat 1 g
Cholesterol trace
Sodium 195 mg
Fiber 2 g


The above is an excerpt from the book 
The Mayo Clinic Diet: Eat well. Enjoy life. Lose weight., by the weight-loss experts at Mayo Clinic and Donald Hensrud, M.D., M.P.H. The above excerpt is a digitally scanned reproduction of text from print. Although this excerpt has been proofread, occasional errors may appear due to the scanning process. Please refer to the finished book for accuracy.

Reprinted from The Mayo Clinic Diet, © 2010 Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research. Published by Good Books (www.GoodBooks.com). Used by permission. All rights reserved.

For more than 100 years, millions of people from all walks of life have found answers at Mayo Clinic. Mayo Clinic works with many insurance companies, does not require a physician referral in most cases and is an in-network provider for millions of people.

For more information, please visit www.goodbooks.com/mayoclinicdiet.

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Can you get a guy to marry you?

I’ve received a number of emails lately from women asking how to get their reluctant boyfriends to marry them.

If you’re in this situation, if you’re feeling that scary, desperate feeling in your stomach that you have to ‘get’ a man to do anything, here’s the most powerful thing you can do: Exercise your option of refusal. Just say no to this nonsense.

Silence all the voices in your head (your mother’s, your co-worker’s, your married friends,’ your own) who are counting on you to get this guy to put a ring on your finger. Step back. Breathe. Keep breathing.

Then ask yourself, do you really think you were put on earth to convince anybody to marry you? Do you really think you were meant to work that hard? Ask yourself, do you want to get married and wake up three, five, eight, 20 years from now feeling slightly depressed that you had to twist somebody’s arm to spend the rest of his life with you?

Come on, you’re too good for that. You deserve better.

Ask yourself, wouldn’t you rather be alone than be with someone who you had to pressure to be your husband? Again, you deserve better. If you want to get married, I wouldn’t ever suggest you let go of that goal, but make it your goal to marry a man who can’t imagine spending life without you, who is excited about your future together, who wants to be the father of your children and actively raise them with you.

So…

If you’ve truly love a guy and have been with him for a reasonable amount of time (repeat: a reasonable amount of time — we’re not talking about a couple of months),  and he’s ‘not ready’ and telling you to ‘be patient,’ it could be time to open yourself to new opportunities. I’m not suggesting you dump him (unless that’s what you want), but I am suggesting that you make new friends, take those Latin (sewing, tennis, painting, etc.) lessons you’ve been putting off.

In other words, resume your life. And if this guy who isn’t ready right now decides to catch up and join you, great. But let it be his decision.

And take heart. If he never does catch up with you, you’ll be well on your way to getting over him. You’ll also have made it extremely possible you’ll meet someone who’ll be eager to spend every waking moment with you, someone who’ll be clear about what he wants.  

Never, ever beg anyone to marry you. You’re better than that.

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Tri-State Area Unmarried Women for Reality TV Show

***Here’s another casting call for a reality tv show for women dating in the tri-state area (NY, NJ, CT).  Good luck!***

REALITY TV PILOT IS SEARCHING FOR THE TRI-STATE AREA’S ULTIMATE ONLINE DATER! 

Are you a woman in your 20’s or 30’s who is actively navigating the NYC online dating scene?

Have you looked for love on match.com or other online dating websites?

Do you and your single girlfriends have enough stories - the good, the bad and the ugly - to write a book on dating?
 
Are you New York City’s real life Carrie Bradshaw?

If so, we want to hear from you!

Picture Shack Entertainment is now casting fun, fabulous single women (and their friends!) for a new reality pilot about the good, the bad and the future happily-ever-afters of the NYC dating scene! We’re looking for that vivacious group of girlfriends who are outgoing, adventurous and made-for-TV…all those real life Carries, Mirandas, Charlottes and Samanthas who will let us come along for the ride as they meet, date and discuss all those potential Mr. Rights!  

If you’re open to new styles of dating and love to meet new people online while searching for your Mr. Right, please contact us with a recent photo, as well as a brief description of yourself and your online dating history. If you have girlfriends who might be right for this ensemble show, please let us know! 

To apply or get information about the pilot
Please contact:  

Email: nydatingcasting2 (at) gmail.com

SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY PLEASE

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Book bonus: The life of an Olympic champion

Olympic Gold Medalist Nikki Stone.

Olympic Gold Medalist Nikki Stone.

Several weeks ago, we published success tips from Nikki Stone, the aerial skiier who overcame a debilitating spinal injury to win an Olympic gold medal. Today we have the privilege of publishing an excerpt of her new book.

 

Introduction

By Nikki Stone
Author of When Turtles Fly: Secrets of Successful People Who Know How To Stick Their Necks Out


I pushed the enormous rocking chair across the lime-green shag carpet. This would be the last piece of furniture I would need to complete my own Olympic podium. I had just watched Olympic Gymnastics Champion Nadia Comaneci stand on top of the real deal, and I wanted to see how it felt. 

I slowly climbed onto the wobbly rocking chair, my pigtails swooshing back and forth. Occasionally a few hairs would catch on my eyelashes and I would pull the strands away from my face so I could continue on my mission. I calculated the chair’s rhythm, carefully threw my leg over the back and slowly climbed up onto the lacquered old end table. I pushed myself to my feet and threw my fists toward the ceiling in victory. A huge smile broke across my freckled face as I imagined the crowds cheering around me and the camera bulbs going off left and right. I had my answer. It felt incredible! 

My mother and father came in from the family room to see what the commotion was. I beamed down at them and stated with confidence, “I’m going to win the ‘lympics!” 

Now, I think most parents would be a bit leery of giving their five-year-old daughter any genuine encouragement for this giant undertaking, especially seeing that, in all likelihood, she had a better chance of winning the lottery than the Olympics someday. But my parents never flinched. I never saw any reservation on their faces when I declared my goal. 

My mom lifted me off the “podium,” plopped me down on the plaid easy chair and said, “Well, then I guess it’s time for me to teach you about the Turtle Effect.”

At the time, this meant little more to me than a chance to potentially hit them up for a pet turtle at Dom’s local pet store. But I realized that if I was going to turn those living room chairs and table into a real Olympic podium, I had to learn what this Turtle Effect really meant. 

She explained to me that if I wanted to be successful, I needed to be soft on the inside, I had to have a hard shell, and I had to be willing to stick my neck out. 

To have a soft inside, I would need a passion for my pursuits. To build a hard shell, I’d have to focus on the task at hand, completely commit to my goals, and develop the ability to overcome any adversity that was thrown my way. And in order to stick my neck out, I’d have to have confidence, take substantial risks, and be a team player in order to succeed. Those seven lessons were key in mastering the Turtle Effect. 

As I grew and developed through my years in gymnastics, and eventually, aerial freestyle skiing, I found my mom’s advice invaluable. But it wasn’t just her words about the Turtle Effect that helped me to become an Olympic champion. It was putting them into action, and experiencing challenges and pitfalls that would eventually help me understand the true depth of their power. Later, I found that by explaining these ideas to others, though motivational speeches, I could help many individuals accomplish their goals. 

Galvanized by the possibilities, I decided to create a book that would offer people many profound and amazing stories for motivation, as well as hands-on activities to help them make changes themselves. I sat down and put together a list of people whose lives I found to be truly inspiring, and who’d worked hard to reach the top of their “game”. I included accomplished businessmen and women, athletes, politicians, celebrities, authors, Nobel Prize winners, musicians and philanthropists. In telling their stories, these individuals, many of whom I’ve come to know, all shared a part of the Turtle Effect that helped them find their own success. To continue the inspiration, I’ve included one more special bonus story online that you can view at www.WhenTurtlesFly.com

Each story is followed by a daily activity that has proved successful at my coaching sessions in changing people’s lives in a concrete way, exercises you can use to improve your own personal and professional life. They serve as hands-on tools to help you enhance and develop your passion, focus, commitment, ability to overcome adversity, risk taking, and team building. From my years of experience as an athlete, speaker and peak performance coach, and by studying the habits of many powerful individuals I’ve encountered, I’ve come up with highly effective steps to encourage advancement in any career. Each activity includes blank space for you to keep notes on your own transformation. 

Whether I’m mentoring future Olympic medalists, motivating hotshot businesspeople, or coaching eager young professionals, I find the Turtle Effect works brilliantly to help people reach success. 

It’s never too late or too early to pursue your dreams, and you’re never too successful to work toward new goals. So get ready for the adventure of a lifetime. 

Get ready to fly! 

Author Bio
At the Olympic Winter Games in Nagano, Japan, Nikki Stone, author of When Turtles Fly: Secrets of Successful People Who Know How To Stick Their Necks Out, became America’s first-ever Olympic champion in the sport of aerial skiing. What made this performance so unbelievable was the fact that, less than two years earlier, a chronic spinal injury prevented her from standing, much less walking or skiing off a twelve-foot-tall snow jump that launches aerialists fifty feet into the air. She overcame the injury and went on to earn 35 World Cup medals, 11 World Cup titles, 4 national titles, 3 World Cup titles, a World Championship title, and membership in the Ski Hall of Fame. Nikki is also a magna cum laude graduate of Union College and a summa cum laude masters graduate of the University of Utah. Her aerial retirement is less than restful as she trains Olympic athletes and business professionals in speaking/media skills, coaches personal and professional development courses, hosts group skiing adventures, sits on five different charitable committees, and writes articles and columns for many magazines, newspapers, and websites. Nikki’s career focus is now on traveling around the world working as a sought-after motivational speaker, sharing her secrets to success by inspiring her business audiences to “Stick their necks out.” Every spare moment is spent with husband, Michael Spencer, and daughter, Zali, in Park City, Utah. 

For more information, please visit www.WhenTurtlesFly.com

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Is having a miscarriage a crime?

As if miscarriage isn’t painful enough, Salon’s Mary Elizabeth Williams reports that it could become a punishable offense in Utah:

“Utah still grants that there’s “no cause of action for criminal homicide for the death of an unborn child caused by an abortion” (yes, in Utah, abortion = “death of an unborn child”) but would now define criminal homicide to include behavior that “intentionally, knowingly, recklessly, with criminal negligence, or acting with a mental state otherwise specified in the statute defining the offense, causes the death of another human being, including an unborn child at any stage of its development.”

Key words there are “recklessly,” “unborn child” and “at any stage.” In other words, if you’re not being a fully responsible baby incubator – even if you’re so early along you don’t know you’re pregnant — and you lose the fetus, you could potentially find yourself up on a murder charge.”

While Williams doesn’t necessarily believe that abortion is the death of an unborn child, I do. But I definitely share her concern that women may be prosecuted for suffering a miscarriage, or even questioned about the events leading to it. (Okay, ’share her concern’ is understating it; I’m scared witless.)

 Read the full story here.

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Escape a bad date

Thursday’s New York Metro featured a piece by Kristy Korcz about apps designed to get you away from an obnoxious, creepy, hygienically challenged, or plain old boring date immediately.

My first instinct was to dismiss these tools as just another way to be mean to people. Face it, we’ve all known women who’ve given a man a fake number or, worse, the digits to a pre-recorded reject line (with a message to the stinging effect of, “The person who gave you this number does not want to go out with you and never wants you to contact them again!”).

And I’ve known a man or two who’d collect as many numbers from women as possible, only to tear them up into little bits at the end of the night (yeah, it is pretty sick; you wouldn’t want to date those guys, anyway).

These people will definitely abuse the get-out-of-there-like-a-bat-out-of-hell apps. Such a woman will spy the guy she met on Match.com from a restaurant window and decide on the basis of the shape of his nose that he’s not what she had in mind. With the help of an app like Fake ‘Em Out, she can rig an emergency call or text message with an excuse to make a quick exit.

Thing is, she who lives by the sword dies by the sword. If a woman uses a break-a-date app before giving a guy a decent chance, she should be open to the possibility that a guy will do the same thing to her. (It all gets down to that ‘treat others as you would have them treat you’ thing, which makes living on this planet so much more enjoyable. If that doesn’t inspire anybody, the late Ann Landers insisted that ”Time wounds all heels.”).

After giving it some thought, though, I remembered a good friend telling me about having dinner with a first date who went into technicolor detail about his favorite sex positions. And then kept making “So what you think?’ gestures with his eyebrows. If you ever find yourself in a similar situation, you have my blessing to get away from such a clueless and pathetic individual by any means available.

In the meantime, check out Geek Sugar, where the motto is ‘geek is chic,’  for up-to-the minute tips on technology and gadgets.

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SWR New York Event: Music showcase on Sat. Feb. 20

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SWR New York Event

Join us to hear SWR member singer Dominique Elise, 26, perform on Sat., Feb. 20, 2010.
Broadway Comedy Club Cafe, on West 53rd Street between 8th and 9th Avenues in New York City.    (The Cafe is a separate door, next to the Broadway Comedy Club, which is on 318 West 53rd, NY, NY.)

Doors open at 6 PM; show starts at 6:30 PM.

$10 Cover with 2 drink minimum.

Say SingleWomenRule.com at the door and get in for $5!!!!

We will meet at 6 P.M. by the bar.  Email info(at)singlewomenrule.com to let us know your’e coming.

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SingleWomenRule.com makes best blog list by Dr. Bella DePaulo

****We’re pleased to share that Singlewomenrule.com has been recognized by Dr. Bella DePaulo, author of the blog Living Single on Psychology Today’s website, and nominated by her readers for “thoughtful and conscious-raising perspectives on singles.” Thank you!!****

A few weeks ago, I mentioned my plan to give my Valentine’s Day love to blogs, websites, groups, and listservs that promote thoughtful and consciousness-raising perspectives on singles, or that engage in advocacy or education on behalf of singles. I invited your nominations. Thanks to everyone who responded. The list is below. Please let me know of any others that should be added. Also, if your own site is listed and you’d like me to add your name (or last name) next to the link, let me know that, too.

It was heartening to me (Valentine’s Day pun intended) to discover or rediscover all of the wonderful voices out there, and the many people and groups doing their share to pull us out of the dark ages of singlism and matrimania and into a more enlightened era. It also made me feel gratefulfor the era of the internet. As too much of the mainstream media lavishes its attention on regressive messages, we can create our own ruckus.

Bella DePaulo(Ph.D., Harvard, 1979) is a social psychologist and the author of Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After (St. Martin’s Press).

Read the full article and check out the great list.

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If you’re going to get married, marry the right guy

Last week, Salon ran an interview with Lori Gottlieb, the author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. We added our two cents here.

And the other day, The Daily Beast ran a piece by Anne Milford and Jennifer Gauvain, authors of How Not to Marry the Wrong Guy. You’ll be glad to read they take a considerably different view. 

Read it and smile.

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Casting Call for romantic comedy TV Show

 

****We recieved this casting call and want to pass it along to you.  Of course, you know at SWR we don’t agree with seeking a “Mr. Right” out of desperation, but if you can get on TV for being the singfabulous gal that you are, then go for it.  You never know what doors might open up.  Plus, if you get on the show, give SingleWomenRule.com a shout-out.  Good luck! — Keysha****

 

MysticArt Pictures and a major cable network are casting an exciting new real-life romantic comedy TV show aimed at helping women find the man of their dreams!!!

 

 

LOVE LIFE

 

Are you tired of having everyone ask you why you are not in a relationship yet? Well we will help you find “Mr. Right” ….

 

Seeking single women who have extremely dynamic, opinionated, and colorful families who have strong family values and traditions.  If you feel you and your family are ready for a once in a lifetime opportunity, then call us NOW!

 

SEEKING:

 

·        Dynamic outgoing women from the mid 20’s to early 40’s

·        Strong ethnically and culturally driven families

·        You and your family MUST currently live in Southern California

·        Must be a legal US resident

·        Must be single and ready for love

 

 

EMAIL US NOW AT:

Lovelifecasting (at) gmail.com

 

 

 

Please include your name, age, contact phone numbers, email addresses, a recent photograph of yourself, family members that live in the area, mom, dad, aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters, etc and a brief summary of why you are ready to find love now.

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Read it and win: ‘I Lost My Job and I Liked It’

Lilou Mace, a dual citizen of France and the United States, got the same bad news so many earnest, hardworking folk have gotten recently: You’re being laid off.

Her reaction was to fend off a serious funk  and turn things to her advantage by using the Law of Attraction. She kept a 30-day journal of her experiences and made it the basis for her new book, I Lost My Job and I Liked It.

One of the things I like about Lilou is that she’s not one of these bury-your-head-in-the-sand types who refuses to admit that the employment situation is scary, whether you’re in the US or just about anywhere else. It is, but she’s willing to work around it.

She’s not, however, willing to take the easy way out; i.e., move into her mother’s house in France or leave her flat in expensive London for a cheaper city. She also refused to take jobs she considered draining or soul-deadening. She wrote a mission statement:

“My mission is to enrol, create and produce positive forms of media that leave people inspired, joyful and fulfilled.”

To that end, she’s continued producing a series of extremely popular Law of Attraction videos on YouTube. She also takes great pleasure in organizing fashionable events for singles, one of which attracted 150 people to a rooftop garden in London.

Although she uses the Law of Attraction, she does run into obstacles along the way, which she resists being thrown by. It’s interesting to me how these obstacles ultimately bring her closer to her goals.

In my own experience with the Law of Attraction, I’ve seen this at work. Sometimes it’s like a wall comes up, and I can’t get over it or around it. The appointment falls through, someone’s stuck in traffic, the friendship I thought was rock-solid falls apart. And, in the end, it all works out (in the case of the rock-solid friendship, we spent entirely too much time together. I had been visualizing and affirming my perfect romantic relationship, but I hadn’t made space for it. The friendship temporarily — but very painfully — fell apart, leaving room for me to meet new people. I met a man and fell in love. The friend invited me to visit her afterwards, and we’ve been friends ever since).

Another interesting tidbit: At one point in her book, Lilou discusses wanting to talk to God. She writes:

“I don’t often use the word ‘God,’ but I really want to pray right now….”

Some people resist using the Law of Attraction because they believe it’s not “of God,” but I have found that LoA has brought me closer to God. It’s one thing to recite some begging, pleading, hopeless prayer and quite another to believe that I can talk freely to a loving force who has my back and wants what’s best for me. Using the Law of Attraction means stepping out in faith.

Lilou also writes of feeling conflicted about wanting money because she was brought up a Catholic. So was I, so I know what she means. But then at Mass one Sunday, it occurred to me that no priest is insulted when baskets of money are brought to the altar. Like every other earthly entity, the Church requires money to thrive.

I’m getting over my money guilt. If I have money, I can help others who need it.

Lilou’s a disciple of Esther and Jerry Hicks of Abraham-Hicks fame, but I prefer works by Catherine Ponder, Florence Scovel Shinn, Norman Vincent Peale, Joseph Murphy, and Shakti Gawain.

For more information about Lilou, check out her website. Her book is available at Amazon (better yet, order your copy from your favorite independent bookstore).

In the interest of casting my bread on the waters, the first US resident to comment on this post will receive my copy of I Lost My Job and I Liked It. It’s used, but I’ve treated it lovingly.

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Take the pressure off Valentine’s Day

Love yourself first.

Today is Valentine’s Day. Whether you’re a fan or not, the thing that matters most is the quality of your relationships, not some card or gift. And your most important relationship is
with yourself.

If you’re dating someone now, great; I’ll get to you in a minute.

If you’re NOT dating anyone right now, you certainly have at least one wonderful person in your life. And I mean you. Today, treat yourself as a treasure that’s yet to be discovered. Imagine how the most
desirable guy in the world would treat you and treat yourself that way.

This is important. When you make a habit of treating yourself like a treasure yet to be discovered, men pick up on it. You become a magnet for men who want a woman they can treasure.

It happened to me.

Buy yourself something special (just don’t go into debt). Savor food you love to eat. Grab a fun friend (note that I said ‘fun friend;’ avoid complainers like the swine flu). Rent a good movie, pop some corn, and have a cocktail.

Have fun!

If you ARE in a relationship, don’t get caught up in the hype. Some men are into Valentine’s Day, and some don’t get it at all (I don’t really like it myself. My feeling is, if you love somebody, you should show them every day, not just on Valentine’s Day). So, if the guy doesn’t come bearing extravagant gifts, be open to the possibility that he thinks Valentine’s Day is the over-hyped commercial holiday I do.

(Now, if he forgets your birthday, that’s another story.)

More important than Valentine’s Day, today begins MARDI GRAS week, so if you live near a Cajun restaurant, check out the party (Peter and I, never the Valentine’s Day revelers, are headed to our
favorite Cajun place with friends on Long Island tonight!)

Life is short. Enjoy every minute of it!

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